February 11-15 2001
Since i submitted a trip report from our november adventure, i wanted to use this forum to talk about single men at hedo and vinnys at hedo. On our last trip to hedo (in november), we met some awesome single men who were respectful and just great to hang with. They had plenty of "action" just about everyday and the reason they did was because they were respectful. People need to understand that everyone has their own reason for going to hedo; that they all have different agendas. If you don't respect that, then you are a vinny. Not everyone goes to hedo to swing or to do threesomes or moresomes, some couples go to hedo to have fun just between themselves.
On our trip in february, we ran into a single male who i dubbed "the shark". I will describe him because, should he read this, i want him to know how miserable he made many couples feel. He was a large man, grayish beard and mustache, wore a polo shirt during the day in the cold jacuzzi and wore a white hat with a black band on it which said "Hedonism II". This man was the epitome of vinnys. He is the reason why it is so difficult for single males to be accepted at hedo. His reputation spread quickly throughout hedo. If you started to complain about him to another couple, they immediately knew who you were talking about, then they would tell you about their sordid encounter with this jerk. I cant tell you how many special private moments he ruined between myself and my husband in the hot tub. On one nite, there was a guy fully dressed sitting on a lounge chair watching everyone in the hot tub, between him and the shark, people in the hot tub were getting very upset to the point where security was called.
I hope that all single males reading this will learn from it. I have always, and still do, believe that single guys have the right to come to hedo and enjoy themselves. We have been privileged to meet several wonderful single guys whom we still keep in touch with. Guys, when you go to hedo, just remember the main theme of respect. Couples are much more receptive to guys who ask if they would like company. I was furious when a single guy just reached out and grabbed me where it wasn't appropriate, and many of the women i spoke to agreed....that pisses us off! If you see a couple you would like to "hang" with, be a gentleman, ask if they would like to have drinks together...there are many ways to get to know people other than physically grabbing. If a couple says "no thank you", then respect their wishes, tell them have a nice day...and find someone else. You are not the only ones who are told "no thank you", there are couples there who don't want to be bothered by other couples too....its nothing personal and you shouldn't take it that way.
To the jerk i mentioned specifically above...you don't belong at hedo!!! You have no idea what it means to respect others. Had you been more hospitable you might have met a nice lady or couple to "be" with (obviously that was your main goal there) and you wouldn't have had to use your hand so much....but i guess you're used to that.