This report required some time to write. Not due to it's length, but rather to compose a more level-headed report to what I experienced at Hedo last week. It is with great hurt that is write this letter.
I booked my trip with an agenda. Living in the mountains with very little social life due to working in the service industry (and being burned out on that and many other things), I was informed at a nude resort of this place and it appeared the perfect place to cut loose with fun people. And I would like to emphasize one thing here: cutting loose meant meeting people from all over and getting to know them through conversation. NOT SEX! As I said prior to my trip (and I still feel this way, getting to know people from all over the country and world is what provides the spice in life (at least it does for me). So I soon after hearing of Hedo found this site to get information on the resort. Reading the post on the messege board, I quickly detected a disdain for single males at Hedo; "vinnies" were everywhere and to be despised. I brought up my concerns with a couple of posts on the board. A few people sent responses indicating that while there were some single males who ! behaved poorly at Hedo, if I conducted myself properly I would have no problem getting along with people there. So with those encouragements, I booked a week at Hedo. And please understand that, coming from where I did and Hedo's rates anyways, it was a vacation of a lifetime when it came to spending the money. It was only when I was sure that I would be treated fairly that I committed my service industry wage towards this trip. So off I went last week.
Shortly after my arrival, I discovered what the week would really be like: ostrization. I approached many groups and couples in an effort to strike up a conversation. Numerous times I was greeted with either curt answers or a cold stare from at least one member of the group. And so it went for most of the week that way. Was I behaving? I was always polite, never even brought up a subject involving sex, and kept my hands clear of my genitals so that there was no question whether I was a vinnie or not. I also might add at this point that the "hot tub scum" argument proved to be symbolic for the week. I have read allegations on the board that single males masterbating in the hot tub was the reason for this. Not only did I not see that happening (although I wasn't checking every guy's package), I did see many times more couples involved in sexual activity in the hot tub than the TOTAL # of single males in the whole tub. I was told not to take pictures w/o getting permissi! on of those who might be in the background, and thus didn't even take a camera to avoid any misconceptions. So naturally I did see couples taking pictures (at least one had me in the background) and never being asked or warned. One of these couples even played with chocolate syrup in the tub; I'm sure that wouldn't effect water quality!
So the week ended up being a week of being treated like a nobody. When I realized that I was going to have to provide my own company, I started taking a Grisham book with me to read. While quietly reading the book I had several people jump into the pool and tub w/o any regard as to whether they might be splashing me or my book (which was borrowed). Additionally, when I tried to strike up a conversation in the tub with a guy in a group who I had said a couple of hellos to in passing, a fellow male in this circle started walking in front of me, presenting me with his back to say I wasn't welcome there. Almost every meal was spent alone (one I spent with another single male). I wasn't expecting to be able to talk with everyone at the resort, but go from looking forward to a great time hanging with fun people to being treated coldly and rudely was extremely disappointing, to put it in the mildest terms I can. Now there was one couple who did talk to me, and one woman who app! roached me to ask if I was alright after ordering a drink at Veronica's with what was probably a very sad look (thank you). But the last couple of days I spent only talking to a couple from DC once; the only other times I was able to talk was when I was talking to the staff. Instead of saying that single males should bring someone to Hedo with them if they expect to have sex there, I think it might be more appropriate to say that they should bring someone with them if they hope to have a conversation.
Will I ever go back? Never as a single male, and I would HIGHLY discourage any other single males from doing so as well. The couple of Hedo have made it abundantly clear that they don't desire any single males there. So let them support it with their money. Would I go back as part of a couple? Probably not. While the staff there did a great job (INCLUDING the great food at the buffet), I don't think I would want to spend anymore time with such judgemental people. If I can't be accepted as a human when I am alone, then they can't accept me as a person, since I'm the same whether or not I have a girlfriend or not.
Lastly, I would encourage you to consider whether my experience is an abberation or not. It is said in the retail field that if a customer has a bad experience, they are more likely to just not patronize that establishment rather than complain. So consider how many single males do you see at Hedo and how many trip reports do you see posted here by them. It's my belief that they are just moving on, rather than dealing with their bad experiences. And if this is the case (as I believe it is), then you people need to do some serious contemplating on your behavior down there when it comes to us single males.
No Respect Left (other than staff), Mark